Lesson # 2: It is the little things that Matter.

As a church goer, I have my own struggles with what kind of mother and woman I should be. Where do I fit in? I think that most of us go through similar issues, and I don't know that  I have an answer yet.
However, I was thinking of the lessons that the holidays have taught me. So lesson number 2 is as follows.

Despite the fact that I am not crafty, I do not have play dates, I work full time and go to school at night. I enjoy hanging with my husband more than girls night out. This can, at times, lead to a lonely existence as a mother.

As I started into the holiday season, I started to wonder how I can  be aware and help those around me. As I am not the mother that will make pre-made cookie jars, or wrap a ribbon around a candle with a holiday poem, but I am someone who cares about others. I do want to help and assist anywhere I can.

Lesson #2 Make consistent and deliberate attempts.

I learned that the effort of saying hello, smiling to someone new, letting others know I am there for them, stopping by to say hi, this is enough. As long as my intent is pure, my acts are deliberate and I consistently try, I can influence the lives of those around me for the better, even without a red ribbon and poem attached to the candle.

As I write this down, I want you all to know, how much I love and care for you. How much I appreciate your words. Merry Christmas! 

It was worth it!

In my last post I lamented about the Holiday season starting and everything I am dreading about it. Yes, sounds a little grinchy but I was not ready AT ALL. So, I am learning my lesson and have decided that with all of our flaws, spending time and making the effort to enjoy the holidays is worth it.

I just left my brothers house where we spent the Thanksgiving Holiday. There were 40 or so family members in a very large house, pictures, food, 4-wheeling, shopping, card games, wrestling, Just Dance and of course plenty of opinions and conversation. Although I wasn't in the frame of mind to enjoy the holidays, I am pleased to announce that I did just that.

So for this holiday season, I am going to post the lessons I have learned rather than the moments I abhor about the holidays. (I may include some of those things too, but we will try to stay on the positives)

So lesson #1 is GET OVER YOURSELF! If it is a friend or acquaintance, we all have quirks and less desirable personality traits. Who cares. Find the the traits in others that you can relate to or enjoy. The holiday season is about spending time with those you love and if you are finding you don't love anyone, you have a majorly sad problem.

This lesson may be for me to learn and everyone else may have it down, but I really doubt it.